We all know, the first date is always difficult, whether it’s the first time or one of many. Situations vary, people change, you change. It can therefore often happen – either due to inattention, or due to bad luck or butterflies in the stomach – to make mistakes. Mistakes that could cost you an evening or who knows, maybe the love of your life!
- You arrive in the club, you sweat cold, you look for it and you see it. Your hands are shaking. But do you have anything on hand? In the truest sense of the word! Yeah, because showing up empty handed is one of the worst things. Let your counterpart know that you care . Right away.
- As soon as you take two steps, you are yanked by the arm and you realize that that evening at the restaurant there is all the usual company of friends. “So, tell us who it is!” “And she? The one with the blue jacket? Well done!”. And we better stop here. Have you chosen the right place? Avoid the usual places at all costs. You could run into unpleasant inconveniences…
- You miss the bus. You get in the car and you realize you have a flat tire. Tragedy! Another of the things to absolutely avoid is arriving late. Although, creating a bit of anticipation never hurts…
- Ok, the time has come: you are about to walk through the door of the restaurant when you suddenly realize that you haven’t shaved and that you have left the house in flip flops. Ah, love! Before leaving the house, take care of your appearance and present yourself at your best. Stand out, get noticed!
- Are you there! Finally you are seated and in front of you may have the love of your life. However, that little blonde back there… Or that brunette sitting at the next table! Wow! If you don’t want to be beaten or, if you like, planted with a scene worthy of the best South American soap operas, please: don’t watch the others. Never.
- Everything’s going well, but before you left, you sent your friend that hilarious video of the kitty salsa dancing. And you absolutely need to know his answer. The importance is vital, it affects your social life! Thus, minute by minute your eye slowly glides over the screen of your phone, accompanied by your fingers. Nothing more wrong! Your attention, your eyes must all be focused on one thing: her.
- It all sounds great: you’re comfortable, she’s perfect, and you can’t stop talking and praising your work and hobbies. You you you. Mistake! Conversation, especially on a date, is a game of giving and receiving. Always try to create a balance.
- The evening is coming to an end, you will soon leave the club. What if it’s too soon? What if it was a beautiful, cool summer evening? Create a rough plan for the “after”. Being seen as confident and determined about what to do is a much appreciated gift.
- It’s time for the bill. What are you doing! Don’t dream of making her pay half the bill, Roman-style! And even worse, don’t let her pay for everything. Whether it’s coffee or dinner, she will NEVER have to reach for her wallet. She is the queen tonight.
- Ok, you have reached the turning point. You are in front of her front door. The last serious mistake is to insist. Let things take their course, abandon yourself in the sweet arms… Of destiny! But never be pushy or oppressive.
